Breastfeeding thoughts at 6:30am: musing on my mother's visit...
She's a really good houseguest. Eats what's served, even if it's a "funny food" (we served something which contained eggplant, and she ate it without a murmur). Doesn't clutter up the common space more than she can avoid it (apart from the banana peel on the sofa - but she quit that when I asked). Helps with whatever needs another pair of hands, from changing the baby to vacuuming the house. Flows with it, enjoys what's going on. She even came with a present: the most beautiful portrait of me. (click on the picture to see a bigger version)
We talked about being "junior Mom", a role we have both held as teenaged elder sisters, vs being "senior Mom". In a curious role reversal, she was being junior Mom to my senior Mom. This is the true Way of the Grandparent, though few practice it.
What does being junior Mom mean? It means pitching in without trying to run the show. Making the no-brainer decisions that keep the scene running (the baby needs changing, let me just get these dishes out of the way, how about the blue overalls?), but keeping out of the controlling ones (when shall we feed him? is this trip going to interrupt his nap?). You have to do this even when you think the senior Mom is getting it wrong. As Mom pointed out, this is a lot easier if the junior Mom thinks the senior Mom is doing a good job.
I am fortunate in all of my son's grandparents, who are good at the role of junior Mom. I hope they think he is fortunate in having me as the senior Mom.